Hate Where You Live? What You Can Do, When You Can’t Move

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It’s no secret that I kind of hate where we live.

5 years ago, my now husband and I moved into a 3 bedroom townhouse, where we started our lives together as a new couple. Within 3 months of moving into our townhouse, however, we discovered mold. And since then, we’ve discovered mold numerous times and in numerous places.

Our property management company have been, to put it nicely, complete crap. We’ve seen multiple managers and maintenance workers come and go.

We’ve had our floors replaced – twice. The first time we couldn’t use our living room for almost 9 weeks. And then they had to do it all over again a few years (and many many complaints) later.

The second time, they made us move out of our place with only a days notice and put us in a disgusting AirBnB – which they also managed.

When we moved back in, we noticed right away that they broke the wheel off our brand new portable dishwasher, and scratched the backs of both our loveseat and couch. It took them over 6 weeks to address these issues, and only did so after I sent a letter stating I was taking them to the tenant’s board. Ugh.

If you’ve ever been in a rental like this (or worse), I’m sure you can relate.

And I know what you’re probably thinking.

If I hate where I live so much, why don’t we just move already?

And trust me, I’ve spent many many hours contemplating the same thing.

So what’s the problem?

Moving is Expensive

Rental prices have skyrocketed over the last 5 years, and continue to do so. So if you’ve been renting the same place for a while, you’ve probably been priced out of similar units.

We sure have been.

For example, to find a comparable 3 bedroom in our area, the price has increased by over 30% – from $1000 a month to almost $1500. Downsizing to a 2 bedroom apartment wouldn’t even help, as we’d still be paying at least $1200 a month, but would be getting less. Even in our community, which boasts a more affordable cost of living.

We have struggled to make ends meet as it is. Trying to find another $200+ a month would be almost impossible.

But even if you can find another affordable place, in most cases, you need to have first and last month’s rent available. For most of us, trying to save $2,000 or more can be really tough.

And then you still have to move. This could mean hiring a moving company, renting a u-haul, or bribing your friends with beer and pizza (like we did). It can be done for cheap, but if you have a lot of furniture and/or are moving far away, it probably won’t be.

Then maybe you’ll want to repaint or decorate. Maybe you’ll need different furniture to fit the space. Maybe you’ll have to set up new utility accounts.

All things that also come at a price.

So what can you do if you hate where you live, but can’t move?

What Works In Your Current Home?

There’s got to be something about your home that you like. Something that made you pick it in the first place. (Assuming that you did choose to live there, that is.)

Think back to when you first saw the place. What made you excited to move in?

I remember loving how light and bright our place was. And then we painted the living room walls a dark colour, added dark curtains, and complained about how dark it was.

Pretty, but too dark!

So the last time our landlords were in to replace our floors and fix the mold issues, we asked them to paint our walls white again. Between that and a new set of curtains, it made our living room that much better.

There is probably something similar that you can do to make your current home “work” at least a little bit better.

What Doesn’t Work in Your Current Home?

This might be easier to answer than the last question, but take some time to really think about it.

Instead of saying “this layout sucks” – be specific. What sucks about it? Is the bathroom too far away from the bedrooms? Maybe there is no room to move around in the kitchen? Or the storage room too inaccessible (or in our case, non-existent)?

Keep a mental list (or hey, why not an actual list?) of the things that make you hate where you live.

You may not be able to change these things in your current place, but when the time comes for you to move again, you know exactly what you’re looking for and what you’re not. Hopefully this will help you avoid getting stuck in yet another place that you don’t want to be in.

Change What You Can

Not too long ago I was given the advice to “focus on what you can control”. I’ve tried to keep that in mind ever since because it’s the exact thing I needed to hear, and is something I am constantly reminding myself.

Since I can’t move, I need to focus what I can do to make this place work for us.

If you have a good landlord, he or she might be willing to work with you to make some of the changes you want. (And they may even be willing to pay for the changes, or at least chip in?)

Add something functional to that dark and unused corner. Paint. Rearrange the furniture. Get some plants. Add a backsplash. Change your shower-head. Change your kitchen faucet. Replace the lighting fixtures. Add a rug. Remove a rug. Hang shelves. Build a deck or small patio in your yard.

Do something that fits your budget, but makes you hate where you live less.

For us, lack of storage is one of the main things I dislike about our place. Our spare bedroom has become a dumping ground of stuff because of this. By spending less than $200 on a pair of these ugly, but super durable shelves*, a lot of the storage issues were solved. It was an easy fix, and is something that we can take with us and still use when we are able to move.

Don’t Outgrow Your Space

On that same note, we wouldn’t need this storage space if we didn’t have so much stuff to store. Most of it did not move in with us, but has accumulated since.

At least once a year, I get into that spring-cleaning mode (although it doesn’t always happen in the spring). Each time, I end up donating at least 2 trunk-loads of clothes and various household items that I no longer want or need. I would love to spend a full week giving our place a major declutter overhaul, but every little bit helps.

One suggestion I’ve heard time and time again to help avoid clutter is the “one in, one out” rule. It basically means for every new thing you bring into your house, one (usually related) thing has to leave.

So if you’re upgrading that old coffee maker, don’t hang onto the old one. Get rid of it! Same goes for any new clothes, books, toys, gadgets, etc.

If you really want to get ahead with decluttering or downsizing, up the number. Get rid of 2 things for every new item, instead of just 1. And, of course, only buy or bring into your house the things that you actually need.

However, out-growing your space isn’t just about “stuff”.

If your family is growing, it may be impossible not to outgrow your space. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to move into a bigger place. With a little creative thinking (and decluttering), it is possible to make your space work.

Think about how you can use those unused or underused spaces in a better way.

Consider smaller pieces of furniture, less furniture, or multifunctional furniture. Mount your TV to the wall instead of using a stand to free up some floor space. Utilize your vertical space (like the top of cabinets) as well as those hideaway spaces (like under your bed). Or convert a closet or nook into an office space.

Keep an Eye on the Market

Even though I know moving is currently out of reach, I still look at the rental listings at least a few times each month. (I used to want to be a real estate agent and find this stuff interesting.)

But it’s also useful to keep an eye on the market – whether or not you’re currently looking to rent or buy.

Knowing the price ranges for places in your favourite neighbourhood will help you determine if living there is feasible or not. And if so, it will help you set realistic goals when it comes to your budget. Such as how much you’d need to save for first and last month’s rent or for a downpayment if you’re hoping to buy.

You may also just be lucky enough to find the perfect new place at a price you can afford. It’s only happened once to me, but by the time I reached out to the landlord, the rental was gone. By keeping an eye on the market you may have better luck than I did.

Start Saving!

I know, I know. Easier said than done. There are probably many other things you need (or want) to spend your money on instead.

But I kick myself whenever I think about this. I was unhappy living in our rental within the first year. By waiting longer to move, we can’t afford the prices of what comparable rentals are now going for. Instead, having controlled rent increases is working in our favour over moving somewhere new. If only we had moved after our one year lease was up…

After our wedding, we spent some of our gift money following some of my earlier advice. We changed what we could to make the space work better for us. We bought a deep freezer, because the small freezer in the refrigerator just wasn’t cutting it for us. And we also bought a soundbar for our TV, since we’re homebodies who watch too much TV.

In hindsight, what I wish we would have done was use that money towards moving expenses instead. But even then, we would have had to save up for at least another few months in order to afford a move.

If you really hate where you live, however, making some small sacrifices now in order to eventually find a place you love is probably worth it.

Do some research to get a better idea of how much moving might cost you. And then figure out how much you’ll need to save to make it happen.

For example, if you need $500 to hire movers, $250 for utility deposits, and $3,000 for first and last month’s rent, moving will cost you $3,750. If you hope to move within a year, that will mean putting about $315 a month aside.  

Putting real numbers (even if they are only estimates at this point) will give you a realistic goal to work towards, rather than a “someday” goal that may never happen.

If you hate where you live but can’t move, these are just some of the things that you can do to make your space work better for you until you can.

YOUR TURN: Do you hate where you live? What have you tried doing to make it better? Leave a comment below and let us know.

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5 thoughts on “Hate Where You Live? What You Can Do, When You Can’t Move

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    Maybe downsizing is still the best long term option. A two bedroom place will always cost you less in the long run. If you truly can’t scrape up another $200 a month what are you going to do when your rent is increased to $1,500 to match the market prices? You know that may be right around the corner, not many smart landlords are going to throw away $500 a month for very long unless there is some rent control ordinance in place.


    1. Amanda

      Thanks for your comment! Yes – I should have mentioned that there is rent control where I live, and in all of Canada, I believe? For example, in Ontario, landlords can only increase rent by 1.8% this year. Which is less than $20 per month for us. So thankfully, a major increase isn’t something we need to worry about.


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    Well then, you are of course 100% right! Sorry for being pretty uninformed of that. I think some big cities in the US have that too but living in the middle of nowhere Arkansas, renters here are pretty much at the mercy of the landlords. I have learned a ton of interesting things about the UK and Europe and you guys just north of the border but it is obvious I have still a lot to learn!


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    Abigail @ipickuppennies

    I don’t hate where I live now (it’s my house), but I definitely had a crappy apartment in Seattle. The price was incredibly low, so I moved. Then the building sold and they increased the rent to something more in keeping with current rents. But I was stuck due to our financial situation at the time (broke and paying off debt). I couldn’t do a lot for physical limitation reasons, but I put up curtains to help cover up the ugly blinds. And I printed out and put up quotes to help cover the ugly wood-grain cupboards. And… I reminded myself that we’d pay significantly more if we moved at that point. Not that we could have afforded the first/last/deposit anyway.


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    Ariel Manoban

    I’m sorry you have to feel that right now about where you currently live. However, I still admire you since you are still contented with what you have right now. I will be saving your article – for future reference. :) Thank you for sharing this!


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