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It’s no secret that I kind of hate where we live.
5 years ago, my now husband and I moved into a 3-bedroom townhouse, where we started our lives together as a new couple. Within 3 months of moving into our townhouse, however, we discovered mold. And since then, we’ve discovered mold numerous times and in numerous places.
Our property management company have been, to put it nicely, complete crap. We’ve seen multiple managers and maintenance workers come and go.
We’ve had our floors replaced – twice. The first time we couldn’t use our living room for almost 9 weeks. And then they had to do it all over again a few years (and many many complaints) later.
The second time, they made us move out of our place with only a days notice and put us in a disgusting AirBnB – which they also managed.
At least all these ants are keeping the cats entertained pic.twitter.com/nURgxWI4uM— Amanda @ My Life, I Guess… (@mylifeiguess) June 22, 2018
When we moved back in, we noticed right away that they broke the wheel off our brand new portable dishwasher, and scratched the backs of both our loveseat and couch. It took them over 6 weeks to address these issues, and only did so after I sent a letter stating I was taking them to the tenant’s board. Ugh.
If you’ve ever been in a rental like this – or worse- I’m sure you can relate.
And I know what you’re probably thinking.
If I hate where I live so much, why don’t I just move already?
And trust me, I’ve spent many many hours contemplating the same thing.
So what’s the problem?
More specifically, the lack of affordable alternatives.
High Rental Prices
Rental prices have skyrocketed over the last 5 years, and will only continue to do so. If you’ve been renting the same place for a while, you’ve probably been priced out of similar units. Particularly if you live in a rent controlled property, or in provinces or states where there are laws that regulate the amount rental prices can increase each year.
For example, if you were to move into the unit beside us today, you’d be paying $300/month more than we are (and probably hate it, too).
To find a comparable 3-bedroom in our area, the price has increased by over 30% – from $1000 a month to almost $1500.
Downsizing might be an option – but it might not help, either. If we were to downsize to a 2-bedroom rental instead, we’d still be paying at least $200 a month more than we are now for our 3-bedroom, but would be getting less. Even in our community, which boasts a more affordable cost of living.
If you are also struggling to make ends meet as it is, trying to find another $200+ a month in your budget could be out of the question.
The Real Estate Market
If you own your home, selling it and buying a new home is an option. But it’s not an easy one. It can be a long, expensive process with a whole lot of hassle and a high potential for making mistakes.
Although real estate is usually seen as an investment, prices fluctuate. Sometimes a lot. Remember the housing market crash that happened in the mid-2000s? It could happen again.
If the market isn’t in your favor, selling right now might not make any sense. I don’t think anyone wants to sell their house at a loss (or can afford to do so), no matter how much you hate it.
If it’s the neighborhood you live in that you hate, you might not be able to afford a house in a neighborhood that you do like. Particularity if it’s an in-demand or up-and-coming area.
Moving is Expensive
If you do decide to move, the move itself is another, potentially large expense.
For renters, if you can find another affordable place to live, in most cases you need to have first and last month’s rent available. And possibly a security deposit, too. For most of us, trying to save $2,000 or more can be incredibly tough.
For homeowners, there are lots of hidden costs involved with buying and selling. Home inspections, appraisal fees, taxes, warranties, insurance, legal fees, renovations and repairs. It doesn’t take long for things to add up!
And then you still have to physically move. This could mean hiring a moving company, renting a u-haul, or bribing your friends with beer and pizza (like we did). It can be done for cheap, but if you have a lot of furniture and/or are moving far away, it probably won’t be.
Then maybe you’ll want to repaint or decorate. Maybe you’ll need different furniture or appliances to fit the new space. Maybe you’ll have to set up new utility accounts.
All things that also come at a price.
What Can You Do If You Hate Where You Live, But Can’t Move?
Whatever situation you’re in, if you hate where you live but you’re unable to move, there are things that you can do to make your home tolerable until you are able to find something better.
What Works In Your Current Home?
There’s got to be something about your home that you like. Something that made you pick it in the first place. (Assuming that you did choose to live there, that is.)
Think back to when you first saw your home. What made you excited to move in?
I remember loving how light and bright our place was. And then we painted the living room walls a dark
So the last time our landlords were in to replace our floors and fix the mold issues, we asked them to paint our walls white again. Between that and a new set of curtains, it made our living room that much better.
There is probably something similar that you can do to make your current home “work” at least a little bit better.
What Doesn’t Work in Your Current Home?
This might be easier to answer than the last question, but take some time to really think about it.
Instead of saying “this layout sucks” – be specific. What sucks about it? Is the bathroom too far away from the bedrooms? Maybe there is no room to move around in the kitchen? Or
Keep a mental list (or hey, why not an actual list?) of the things that make you hate where you live.
You may not be able to change these things in your current place, but when the time comes for you to move again, you know exactly what you’re looking for and what you’re not. Hopefully this will help you avoid getting stuck in yet another place that you don’t want to be in.
Change What You Can
Not too long ago I was given the advice to “focus on what you can control”. I’ve tried to keep that in mind ever since because it’s the exact thing I needed to hear, and is something I am constantly reminding myself.
Since I can’t move, I need to focus what I can do to make this place work for us.
If you have a good landlord or property manager, he or she might be willing to work with you to make some of the changes you want. They may even be willing to pay for these changes (or at least chip in).
- Rearrange the furniture.
- Deep clean.
- Get some plants.
- Add a backsplash.
- Change the tiling.
- Re-grout the tiling.
- Change your shower-head.
- Change your kitchen faucet.
- Replace the lighting fixtures.
- Add more lighting fixtures.
- Replace the carpet or flooring.
- Add a rug.
- Remove a rug.
- Hang shelves.
- Build a deck or small patio in your yard.
- Power-wash your bathtub.
- Polish wooden surfaces or stainless steel appliances.
- Add something functional and/or visually pleasing to that dark and unused corner.
Do something that fits your budget, but makes you hate where you live less.
Don’t Outgrow Your Space
On that same note, we wouldn’t need this storage space if we didn’t have so much stuff to store. Most of it did not move in with us, but has accumulated since.
At least once a year, I get into that spring-cleaning mode (although it doesn’t always happen in the spring). Each time, I end up donating at least 2 trunk-loads of clothes and various household items that I no longer want or need. I would love to spend a full week giving our place a major declutter overhaul, but every little bit helps.
One suggestion I’ve heard time and time again to help avoid clutter is the “one in, one out” rule. It basically means for every new thing you bring into your house, one (usually related) thing has to leave.
So if you’re upgrading that old coffee maker, don’t hang onto the old one. Get rid of it! Same goes for any new clothes, books, toys, gadgets, etc.
If you really want to get ahead with decluttering or downsizing,
Out-Growing Your Space Isn’t Just About “Stuff”
If your family is growing, it may be impossible not to outgrow your space. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to move into a bigger place. With a little creative thinking (and decluttering), it is possible to make your space work.
Think about how you can use those unused or underused spaces in a better way.
Consider smaller pieces of furniture, less furniture, or multifunctional furniture. Mount your TV to the wall instead of using a stand to free up some floor space. Utilize your vertical space (like the top of cabinets) as well as those hideaway spaces (like under your bed). Or convert a closet or nook into an office space.
Keep an Eye on the Market
Even though I know moving is currently out of reach, I still look at the rental listings at least a few times each month. (I also used to want to be a real estate agent and find this stuff interesting.)
But it’s useful to keep an eye on the market – whether or not you’re currently looking to rent or buy.
Knowing the price ranges for places in your favorite neighborhood will help you determine if living there is feasible or not. And if so, it will help you set realistic goals when it comes to your budget. You will know how much you will need to save for first and last month’s rent or for a downpayment if you’re hoping to buy.
You may also luck out and find the perfect new place at a price you can afford. It’s only happened once to me, but by the time I reached out to the landlord, the rental was gone. By keeping an eye on the market you may have better luck than I did and be able to move sooner than you thought.
I know, I know. Easier said than done. There are probably many other things you need (or want) to spend your money on instead.
But I kick myself whenever I think about this. I was unhappy living in our rental right from the start. By waiting longer to move, we can’t afford the prices of what comparable rentals are now going for. Instead, having controlled rent increases is working in our favour over moving somewhere new. If only we had moved after our one year lease was up!
After our wedding, we spent some of our gift money following some of my earlier advice. We changed what we could to make the space work better for us. We bought a deep freezer, because the small freezer in the refrigerator just wasn’t cutting it for us. And we also bought a soundbar for our TV, since we’re homebodies who watch too much TV.
In hindsight, what I wish we would have done was use that money towards moving expenses instead. But even then, we would have had to save up for at least another few months in order to afford a move.
If you really hate where you live, making some small sacrifices now in order to eventually find a place you love is probably worth it.
Do some research to get a better idea of how much moving might cost you. And then figure out how much you’ll need to save to make it happen.
For example, if you need $500 to hire movers, $250 for utility deposits, and $3,000 for first and last month’s rent, moving will cost you $3,750. If you hope to move within a year, that will mean putting about $315 a month aside.
Putting real numbers (even if they are only estimates at this point) will give you a realistic goal to work towards, rather than a “someday” goal that may never happen.
If you hate where you live but can’t move, these are just some of the things that you can do to make your space work better for you until you can.
YOUR TURN: Do you hate where you live? What have you tried doing to make it better? Please leave a comment below and let us know!
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