I’ve Finally Made My Decision

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I finally had the courage to put myself out there (well, here), and admit to the world things that I’m reluctant to accept myself – things with me aren’t going so well.

Fortunately, I received a lot of support, encouraging words, and points to consider. Thank you everyone – Liquid Independence, CeCe @ Frugalista Married, Katie, eemusings, Debt and the Girl, Janine, SuburbanFinance, strangers over at Ask a Manager, Chad, April, Andrea, Alaina, Mike, mom, dad, and my fellow co-workers. Your kind words were an immense help. I’ve been “in my head” far too much over it and it was nice to get some outside perspective.

Ultimately though, the decision is mine and mine alone. And you’ll be happy to know that a decision has finally been made: I’m going to take a stress-leave from work.

It sucks to temporarily abandon my employer and my coworkers, but it’s clear my employers don’t have the same consideration for me or I wouldn’t be in this position to begin with. It helps that my position used to be seasonal, and my predecessors were laid off each summer, so I’m not dumping my work on anyone else – there is very little work to be done.

In the last week since posting, things have happened that made it clear the the pros outweigh the cons in this situation. Maybe stress-leave won’t solve all my problems, but it’s a treatment option that’s available to me, and I’ve got to try. Since deciding this, my mood has already notably improved – but my anxiety levels have not. Now I actually have to do something about it rather than sit and whine. I’ve grown far too comfortable making excuses and pointing the blame that taking action is scary, but no doubt necessary.

Next step: get that doctor’s note.

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Amanda Kay, an Employment Specialist and founder of My Life, I Guess, strives to keep the "person" in personal finance by writing about money, mistakes, and more. She focuses on what it’s like being in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, and surviving unemployment while also offering advice and support for others in similar situations - including a FREE library of career & job search resources.


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13 thoughts on “I’ve Finally Made My Decision”

  1. Good for you!! Making a decision is the hardest part but once it’s done it’s done and you can move forward. Your job shouldn’t be making you this miserable. I think we tell ourselves oh, it’s fine or we can tough it out or oh well that’s life but even if it means less money life is short and we can’t spend it being miserable especially if we know what the cause is.

    1. I was cleaning up the tags on this blog, and noticed that it was almost 2 years ago that I started noticing some negative effects on my health from this job. Clearly toughing it out for 2 years is enough! :)

  2. Take a stress leave or not, that is the thing we have to face in our live. Sometime we need to make our selves calm and clear in order to bring back our strength.

    Hopefully with your stress leave will bring back your inner side stronger than before.
    Good luck .

  3. That sounds like something that would have benefited me a lot more last year had I been able to! Hopefully the time off will also allow you to relax. :D

  4. It’s so important that you listen to yourself and your inner voice, and I am so glad that you did. Learning when to say stop and enough is one of the most important things to learn in life, even though it can be a really difficult decision, and hard to admit that you need a break. It is a sign of strength, though, that you do this now, before things fall apart any further. Lots of pats on the back from me! (and a hug).

  5. I am glad that you are taking a break. Reading your blog makes me relate to some of the things you have been through so much. You have to take into account your health first and everything else can go screw itself :) I hope you find the peace that you need.

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