Don’t Delay the Happy

Since I’ve been trapped in my apartment, trying to find the right amount of painkillers to kill the migraines, I’ve been watching a lot of tv and movies. (Who am I kidding, I watch a lot of tv regardless!) After finishing my Harry Potter marathon, I moved onto The Big C. The show, which aired 40 episodes between 2010 – 2013, stars Laura Linney (love her!).

“… follows teacher Cathy Jamison – a reserved, suburban wife and mother – who is diagnosed with melanoma. The realization of this forces her to really begin to live for the first time in her adult life. At first she chooses to keep her diagnosis from her family, behaving in ways they find puzzling and increasingly bizarre. She finds new freedom to express herself. As the show progresses, Cathy allows her family and some new friends to support her as she copes with her terminal diagnosis, and finds both humor and pathos in the many idiosyncratic relationships in her life.” (Wikipedia)

I’ve been hesitant to watch it because it’s obviously a heavy and serious topic, and with everything going on with me, I wasn’t sure I could handle it emotionally. And yeah, it is extremely sad at times, and I did bawl my eyes out on more than one occasion, but I laughed more often than not.

I could easily turn this into a post about how shitty cancer is, and how pissed off I am over all the lives it’s taken. We’ve all lost someone close to us to some form of cancer, because cancer is an asshole. But, it’s becoming clear to me that there’s too much negativity and pessimism in my life. This show is not negative or pessimistic.  It’s actual very beautiful and inspirational.

Too often we wait for something awful to happen to us to take that leap with our lives; to make that change, to take those risks, to (borrow from the show’s tagline) “grab life by the balls“. Why? Why do we do this???

I know I’m guilty. I don’t know how many times I’ve blamed working too much for not doing the things I want to do with my life. That’s more or less been the theme of this entire blog thus far! And while thank GOD, my “something awful” wasn’t as serious as terminal cancer, it still took me a near mental-breakdown to just realize that I’m not living my life.

If you’ve never seen the show, I strongly suggest that you do. It just may be the kick in the ass you need.

Are you living your life?

Amanda Kay

Amanda Kay, an Employment Specialist and founder of My Life, I Guess, strives to keep the "person" in personal finance by writing about money, mistakes, and making a living. She focuses on what it’s like being in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, and surviving unemployment while also offering advice and support for others in similar situations - including a FREE library of career & job search resources.

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13 thoughts on “Don’t Delay the Happy”

  1. Man, ain’t that the truth. I came to the realization fairly recently that I’ve been putting a lot of living off. I do the same thing, using work as an excuse. I also catch myself saying “Once my student debt is paid off things will be different” a lot. It sort of struck me that there are still plenty of ways that I can live a full and rich life while I wait to be debt-free so I’m making baby steps to try and do just that.

    Also, Laura Linney is so great.

    • It’s good to be realistic about your finances (debt), but if you’re like me and going to be paying off your student loans for decades, you can’t let that hold you back or your entire life will pass by. No thanks! Best of luck to you!

  2. Great post! And so true. I don’t know why we wait for something horrible to happen before we wake up and realise life is precious. No more waiting. Let’s grab life by the balls and enjoy!

  3. “Cancer is an asshole.” I’ve been saying this for years. <3

    I like to think that I'm living my happy and loving my life. I'm in a job I love and care about, I have freedom and flexibility, and I have a wonderful family and great friends. I'm obviously always looking for new ways to make things better… but life is good. I can't complain.

  4. Cancer really is a terrible, terrible thing. So many people in my family have had it and there is nothing good about it. I’ve never seen this show or heard of it, but I’m all for fresh perspectives on how to deal with something as tough as this. It’s sad that sometimes it takes something as life changing as a life eating disease to motivate ourselves into really living our lives for the first time.


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